Author: CHEWV

  • Support Groups in the Early Years

    Support Groups in the Early Years

    by Coleen Bumgarner

    During CHEWV’s first fifteen years, Coleen Bumgarner worked to establish support groups and contacts throughout the state of WV.  Here she recounts a little bit of what it was like to be a “pioneer” in those early years of homeschooling!

    When CHEWV began in 1990 there were few homeschooling families, and the few that existed were scattered across the state.  Finding others committed to homeschooling or interested in homeschooling happened by “word of mouth” or by meeting at events.  Remember, social media and internet blogs weren’t available back then!  So the task of building bridges throughout the state was rather daunting.

    My husband and I served as support group liaisons for CHEWV and occasionally a name or phone number would come our way, but with little other information.  It was definitely a challenge finding other homeschoolers in the hills and hollers of our Mountain State!  In fact, due to the geographical shape of WV, some families had already connected with neighbors in Ohio, Pennsylvania, or Virginia.  To complicate matters, the families we found were often secretive or elusive about educating their children, fearing for their freedom and parenting rights.  Understandably, it was hard to convince them to associate openly with other families. It often felt like they were playing the children’s game – Catch me if you can!

    CHEWV responded by sponsoring regional meetings and workshops (with free food, of course!) for those who were willing to take on leadership roles and other responsibilities.  We knew homeschooling needed to be a viable and accessible option across our state!

    In the early years, most support groups published hard copy newsletters and sent them out by mail monthly.  I tried to get on all the mailing lists so that I could, in turn, share information from group to group. My passion was to connect these random groups, so every month I sent out packets (large manila envelopes!) to the folks I knew.  I collected articles from magazines, made copies, stuffed envelopes, and sent them out to any contacts I had – along with a prayer that someone might benefit.  Bridges were slowly being built in the homeschooling community scattered across our mountainous state.

    Today, we can’t even imagine what it was like in those early years – like having only ONE homeschooling magazine and only TWO curriculum choices (yes, just two!).  Then the arrival of the internet changed everything!  The need to connect homeschoolers also changed overnight.  It was suddenly easy to find help, get a question answered, and discover other homeschooling families.  Support group dynamics also changed drastically.  Those early support groups gradually morphed into mega groups able to offer dance, theater, athletics, and all manner of activities.  Yes, the changes that have occurred since those early years have been staggering.

    CHEWV’s early quest of finding support groups has changed as well.  As the labor-intensive monthly mailings became a relic of the past, we turned to our website, email, and Facebook page to connect families.  These avenues provide instant and more accurate information for our members and friends.  Yes, our state is still geographically challenged and there are still some pockets where homeschooling families feel isolated, but CHEWV continues to seek out these families and offer support through our expanded outlets in the media.

    Phil and Coleen Bumgarner served on the CHEWV board from its founding until 2005 when the last of their three graduated.  They count CHEWV friendships as “tried and true,” remaining precious and dear through the years. 

  • Contest for Homeschool Moms (& Dads)!

    Contest for Homeschool Moms (& Dads)!

    Would you like to win a signed copy of The Ultimate Homeschool Planner? To enter our May giveaway, all you have to do is submit a recommendation for our e-newsletter by answering a few questions about one of your favorite homeschool resources. For example, what was something you used this past school year that made a positive difference in your year? A new curriculum? A schedule tool? A transcript template?  

    Your answers might become part of our column, These Are a Few of My Favorite Things! We’ve made it super simple to submit an idea. Just go to our new online form, answer the five easy questions, and hit “submit.” It’s that easy!  

    Are you worried that your ideas aren’t creative or clever enough, or that they only work for your crazy family?!  Believe us, you do not have to be Super Mom to share in the column – none of us are!  We want ideas from “real” moms who, like us, don’t have it all together, but occasionally stumble on something that works!  

    And if you make a submission for our column during the month of May, we’ll put your name in a drawing for a signed copy of The Ultimate Homeschool Planner by Debra Bell. Just in time for fall planning, this system from Apologia includes planning grids, teaching tips, a high school planning guide, year in review, and much more. To get your name in the hat, hurry on over to this form and share your review today!

  • Special Needs:  Lisa’s Story

    Special Needs: Lisa’s Story

    As told to CHEWV.

    We homeschooled our first two children in Maryland and things were going along well.  But about the time that our second child was entering kindergarten, we became concerned that something wasn’t quite right with our toddler.  At 2 1/2, he wasn’t talking, only grunting and pointing.  He acted like he couldn’t hear us, so we suspected a hearing issue; but there were other oddities as well.  Although we didn’t know what was happening, we were pretty sure he wasn’t developing like the other two had.

    A trip to the pediatrician was not helpful.  In fact, we saw several doctors who all told us that nothing was wrong; he was just a late talker. Our gut feeling, however, was that something was wrong.  We prevailed in getting his hearing tested, but because of some behavioral issues, we ended up having to go to Johns Hopkins for the hearing test.  The results came back perfectly normal, and again, we were told that he was just a late talker and not to worry.

    I believe it was providential that I heard of Thomas Sowell’s book, Late Talking Children.  I bought and simply devoured it!  It became clear that this book was not describing our son. Late talking children can still follow instructions, but our Josh didn’t even seem to comprehend what we were saying.  About this time we had to move to West Virginia for my husband’s job. Although we didn’t get any better answers from the pediatricians here, my insistence yielded a referral for speech therapy.  It was the speech therapist who first realized that yes, there was a problem.  By this time, that was not surprising to me.

    The speech therapist referred us to the Klingberg Center in Morgantown where they do multi-disciplinary child development assessments.   The specialists at the Klingberg Center diagnosed  Josh with autism – with one of the highest scores they had yet seen.

    An immediate referral was made to the Birth to Three Program.  Since Josh was nearly three already, those services did not last long.  After Josh turned three, strong pressure began to put him in public school for services. But we did not want to send our children to public school!  I was tired and upset, and neither of our parents was supportive.   One denied the diagnosis entirely and the other told me to put the older children in school so we could attend to the child who needed us more.  While it  had been a long journey just to find out what was wrong,  we soon realized that we had more obstacles ahead.  How were we to get Josh proper treatment when I didn’t have a college degree or any training with special needs?  I felt totally inadequate, yet my husband offered this loving counsel: 

    Rob’s first question, “Does God make mistakes?”

    I sheepishly gave the obvious answer, “No.”

    He continued, “Is there anything wrong with Joshua?”

    I answered more quickly, “No!  Joshua is perfect just the way God made him and God has a purpose for him!”

    Rob:  “Who gave you the desire to homeschool?”

    Me:  “God did.”

    Rob: 

    “How do you know that God didn’t give you the desire to homeschool our children to prepare you for the work you would need to do with Josh?”

    These were words of wisdom that I needed to hear!  And so He did.  None of this was a surprise to God, and He had it well in hand – although we didn’t know how yet.

    The doctor at the Klingberg Center was hesitant about homeschooling,  but he was willing to assist and see how it went.  At the time there was a special needs home program through Rutgers University, but the expense was astronomical. I was able to go visit the families involved in that program, and I began reading their recommended material.  I stopped homeschooling the older two for two months while I immersed myself in my own education.  Josh had been diagnosed in November.  By January I had designed my own intervention home program for him. 

    A doctorate student agreed to advise me.  She was learning about autism at the same time I was – which was a blessing for us.  As she studied in WVU’s doctoral program, she was willing to share her growing knowledge with me and use our family as a “put it into practice” opportunity.  Josh’s therapy program was 25 hours of one-on-one work every week.  We hired college students, trained them in the program, and then had them “teach” Josh 10 hours per week – which was the most we could afford.  I performed  the remaining 15 hours.  The doctorate student (who would later become a practitioner in the Klingberg Center) advised us as I kept detailed records of what was being done and how Josh responded.

    It was intense and constant for well over a year.  But when Josh was about 4 1/2, the original doctor from Klingberg told us that we should keep doing whatever we were doing because Josh was considered “recovered!”  This was music to my ears from the doctor who had been reticent about a home program and fairly insistent that only public school professionals could treat Josh!  A clear diagnosis requires a 25% receptive and expressive language deficit, a 25% social deficit, and certain other associated behaviors.  Josh’s percentage was now well below that on each scale!  This was huge since Josh had had one of the highest autistic scores ever given at the Klingberg Center when he was diagnosed!  And even though persons with autism are never fully healed, we were ready to go into a regular kindergarten homeschool program with only accommodations.  I continued to give Josh special attention —  his homeschooling  was never as easy as “regular homeschooling.”

    Was it hard on the older children?  Yes. It was difficult for all of us.  My older son particularly had a hard time when attention was diverted from him. But the older two both became a part of Josh’s therapy out of pure necessity.   If I was schooling one, the other had to interact with Josh.  This proved to be a positive experience for them.  Although my oldest was able to read a book to understand Josh’s needs better, they both had to learn that Josh loved them despite the fact that he wouldn’t hug, touch, or communicate with them.  It took years to adjust,  but it’s been a wonderful learning experience for all of us.  My older children are much more patient and compassionate than they would have been had our family life been easier.

    Six years after Josh was born, we welcomed a new baby girl into our family.  It was with mixed feelings that I started noticing similar problems with her. By the time we knew she had Asperger’s,  I had already learned that God would providentially provide just what we needed! 

    So what advice would I give parents of special needs children?  Trust your instincts!  When you feel something isn’t quite right, be persistent.  The more important thing, though, is to trust God. We didn’t want to move to WV at first, but looking back, I see that this is where God provided the resources we needed.  God knew!  And He never makes mistakes.  Never.

    Side note from Lisa:

    While many in homeschooling circles wish to avoid labeling special needs children, it is still extremely important to have them evaluated by professionals to find out where their difficulties lie. As parents, we need to know how to help them learn efficiently. 

    This needn’t single out one child if we’re cautious. For instance, as long as we can address their issues, it’s not necessary to call our children autistic, learning impaired, etc…  Their therapy can be called “school.”  Our annual assessment can be the same for all our children so as not to single out our special child.  But having the diagnosis still paves the way for understanding and helping our children to learn. 

    For our family, we called Joshua’s therapy “school.”  We never referred to it as therapy.  We also tested all of our children with standardized tests, albeit we arranged one on one testing for Joshua. But since we needed to turn in a portfolio review for Joshua, we did portfolio reviews for the other children also.  As much as we could, we treated our children equally. Nevertheless, getting Josh diagnosed was essential for his educational success!

  • 1994: Portfolio Review

    1994: Portfolio Review

    The First Decade and the Portfolio Option

    by Mike Hutchison, former Executive Director of CHEWV

    With a vision to serve the homeschooling community, CHEWV commenced its service in 1990.  Starting with a board of ten couples, the first real invitation to join CHEWV came with the invitation to the first conference, with nationally-known speaker Gregg Harris.  From there, the service and membership began growing; within the first ten years, membership grew from 40 families to over 600 families!    

    During CHEWV’s first three years, homeschooling became more popular all across the country.  While attracting the attention of more parents, however, it drew increasing antagonism from teachers’ unions and legislators.  In 1994, U.S. Congressional Bill HR 6  threatened to derail homeschooling nationwide.  It was during the HR6 campaign that CHEWV’s phone trees and statewide communication system was set up.  The voice of our homeschooling community, heard loud and clear in the halls of Congress, made an indelible impression on our representatives in Washington!  While primitive by today’s technology, that system would serve CHEWV for many years until replaced by email and electronic communication.   

    West Virginia legislative pressures heightened as the state’s teachers unions sought more control over homeschooling families.  At the same time more families with special needs children began to consider homeschooling as an option to help their children flourish with more one-on-one, personally tailored instruction.  CHEWV, in concert with HSLDA, decided to seek legislation in the 1994 session to add a portfolio evaluation assessment option to the annual standardized testing requirement.  It seemed reasonable to seek a legislative remedy for the discriminatory provision of the law which made it impossible for special needs children to be homeschooled.

    While a portfolio assessment option seemed straightforward and reasonable, the 1994 legislative campaign became very difficult as the state teachers unions and state Department of Education became adamant that parents were not qualified to teach special needs children and, in fact, should not be teaching any children at home unless they were state-certified teachers.  God favored us with a sympathetic chairman of the House Education Committee, but the Senate Education Committee chairwoman, a school psychologist, was adamantly opposed to any more parental freedom than the law already allowed.  As this was before CHEWV had a formal lobbying presence at the Capitol, the CHEWV Board asked homeschooling families from all around the state to advocate face-to-face with their own delegates and state senators.  Families responded by flooding the Capitol, many bringing cookies as they sought individual meetings with their district legislators to lobby for passage.

    As had been experienced in 1986, it was only by the grace of God that the portfolio option was passed that year.  At one point near the middle of the session, the Senate Education Committee chairwoman told CHEWV that the House Bill would certainly not make it through her committee.  What did God use to change her mind?  God used our children!  Conversations with our children and their respectful behavior softened her heart over the last four weeks of the session.  In one of the many trips to the committee meetings and just three days before the end of the session, she shocked us when she asked the committee to report the bill to the Senate Floor – albeit with no recommendation for passage.  On the next-to-last day of the session, when we were again at the Capitol, she called us aside and told one of our children not to worry about the bill – that it would be okay!  The Senate passed the House Bill unanimously on the last day of the session – and it became law!  The heart of the king (in this case the committee chairwoman) was still in God’s hand!  Nowhere is it more evident than when Exemption B (b) of the West Virginia Code was liberalized to allow more freedom to West Virginia’s homeschooling families.  Like David, we are small and have no legislative power on our own.  But as with Goliath, God takes down seemingly insurmountable obstacles through the active faith of His people!

  • 1986 Homeschooling Law

    1986 Homeschooling Law

    The Birth of Legal Homeschooling: Not to be Taken Lightly

    by Gene and Jan Board, one of CHEWV’s founding board couples.

    It has been thirty years since we started homeschooling–a generation has passed and many things have changed.

    When our family started homeschooling in the 1980’s, we used exemption K, the Parochial School exemption.  In our zeal, we named our little school, had letterhead stationery, assigned a boys’ and girls’ bathroom, and even had a school newspaper (with a very plucky reporter). We already owned a yellow vehicle, so, as our children remarked, we even boasted a “yellow school bus.” It was novel and exciting.

    Until it became evident that we could no longer use exemption K and things began to collapse. Should we move to another state that allowed homeschooling? Or should we band together with other families (if we could find them) who would start a Christian School? Doing so would require a huge expense for a building, staff, and materials.  Plus, we felt compelled by God to teach our own children at home. Yet to continue homeschooling under the old exemption K would be breaking the law, and the consequences of that were frightening.  We could go to jail and our children put into foster care. A lengthy and expensive litigation process would be required to get our lives back if we survived such an ordeal.

    We spent much time in prayer and research and felt that our only logical choice was to seek a new law that would allow all families like us the freedom to homeschool their children.  Less than a week later we received a call from a stranger, Don Fox, who asked us to meet with a small group concerning the possibility of creating a new homeschool law.

    I was so naive about the entire process.  I thought our little group would make a quick trip to Charleston, give an impassioned speech, shake some hands, and presto, a bill would become law. That was not what happened!

    When we first met in Charleston as a group, the sponsoring delegates sent a legal clerk to write the bill that would be submitted.  We knew what we wanted the bill to say and do, but the legal wording was a different matter.  I called a homeschool mom in Virginia who read their state’s brand new homeschooling law to me as I copied it down. We made changes and were on our way.

    This was before email, cell phones or social networking. We had home phones, fax machines, phone trees and letters (the kind that require stamps). When a hearing was scheduled, usually only hours in advance, it would take a while for us to get the message. These various committee meetings – Education, Finance, Judiciary, etc – were often bright and early, so by the time we got the message, packed, and drove down to a motel, it was the wee hours of the morning. It required planning to jump up, park and get into the Capital by 8am.

    When we got to the meeting, we could only speak if called upon, and only for an allotted time. If someone from the other side of the issue reported something wrongly, we could not correct the information unless we were called upon.  At the first Education Committee meeting of the House, the chief lobbyist of the teacher’s unions pointed out that homeschoolers had made recent news because they were in a show down with State and Federal Marshals in another state. Obviously, these were not the role models we were hoping for, and they were using a very broad brush to define homeschoolers. So we compiled reams of information and dutifully put it on the desk of the delegates and senators. We then watched from the gallery as many on the floor below looked briefly at our cover sheet only to immediately throw it in the waste basket by their desks.

    We needed to make them aware of a constituency that they never knew existed.  One way to do this was to take our children to Charleston as living examples of what we wanted to achieve.  They went with us when we talked one on one with our representatives.  They were grilled and observed and questioned.  We would do “school” in the cafeteria and several legislators would stop by the table to see what the kids were doing.  The kind ones would sit and talk with the children and even help them with math problems.  Others used the opportunity to tell us why they didn’t think this was a good idea. Gene and I had to register as lobbyists because we were talking to more that just our own representatives. We were welcomed in some offices and told to leave in others.

    We learned the importance of having homeschoolers from all districts talking with their own representatives. It makes a difference when we can directly affect their re-election! But at this time, there was only a handful of homeschoolers in the entire state…  

    These committee meetings were scattered throughout the 60 days the legislature was in session, and we never knew how long we would be needed in Charleston. Our senator, who was sponsoring the bill in the Senate, had been allotted two motel rooms.  One was used by him to house constituents who were visiting him.  If no one asked for the room by eight in the evening, he would allow us to stay there.  We were not always able to stay free, but we were so thankful for those times when we could. At one point, I found myself doing laundry in a laundromat while the children sat in a warm car in their underwear and winter coats! Eating out all meals proved expensive, so when I could I would bring food from home. Gene ran his business long distance via the phone and his business partner. Those trips to Charleston became our “vacation” for the year, but what an educational trip it turned out to be!

    Probably the most defeating moment came toward the end of the session.  It was clear that the homeschool bill had enough backing in the House of Delegates to pass and then move on to the Senate. But in various meetings with the Speaker of the House, it became evident that he would not bring our bill up for a vote because the public school teachers had a real problem with children being taught by parents at home, and they had his ear.  Without intervention the bill would die. A compromise was struck that would put qualifiers on both children and parents. As horribly restrictive as this was, it did allow the bill to become law and, for the first time since the nineteenth century, it was definitely legal to homeschool.  While this WV law was the most restrictive of all the states’ homeschooling laws at the time, subsequent legislative action made it more lenient. An even better law is still needed today.

    Our family did make large sacrifices for that first homeschool bill, but all praise belongs to God. We were just obeying what we felt God had called us to do. Had we chosen not to get involved, God would have used someone else to carry out His goals, but we would have missed so much! Through all the hassle and fear and discouragement, we learned that God is able to do abundantly more than we ever ask or dream! It was so encouraging to see what a few amazingly determined and persistent people could do when they felt led by God to do something bold for the benefit of others.

    In the end, we spent 22 days of that session in Charleston and were asked to be present when the bill was signed into law. Finally the question of “Who owns the child? The state or the parents?” was answered as legal homeschooling in WV was birthed.

  • Can you do it?  Homeschooling the High Schooler

    Can you do it? Homeschooling the High Schooler

    Homeschooling the High Schooler? We’ve all seen the car commercial. An extremely expensive car goes zooming up a mountain at a high rate of speed, and across the bottom of our screen flashes the message, “professional driver- don’t try this at home.” The world would tell us that homeschooling our high school children should also be left to “professionals,” and that we certainly should not try this at home.

    Our experience of homeschooling three children all the way through high school has proven this “wisdom of the world” to be “foolishness to God.” As in all areas of life, if God has called you to teach your children high school material, He will equip you, mold you, and guide you. After all, He loves your children even more than you do, and His desire is that they might prosper and have a hope and a future (Jer. 29:11).

    Knowing this, we need to proceed with a plan and to do our very best, with God’s help. Our Heavenly Father demands that things be done decently and in order. Our desire should be towards excellence. We don’t do our children any favors by allowing them to slough off difficult subjects or to do a half-hearted job. These four years are a time of intense academic study and an even greater emphasis on developing the mind and heart and character of Christ. Academic credentials may be the key to open doors of opportunities in the future, but ultimately, our children will be judged not by their command of math principles, or their ability to pinpoint dates in history, but by their maturity, their dependability, the desire to serve others by dying to self, and the reflection of their Savior as they relate to others. With that in mind, make biblical priorities and the development of the character of Christ your goal. Seek material for Bible study that emphasizes Godly character qualities and start working on them. You’ll be amazed as to how many you need to learn and apply to yourself!

    Gear your high school plan toward sending your child to college

    Even though your child may not be thinking of college, the additional study and preparation will not ultimately by wasted. The subjects studied will only enhance his grasp of the world he’s called to live in and if God would call him into a field that would require a college degree, he won’t have to backtrack to prepare himself.

    Keep accurate & careful records

    Your records should be credible, recognizable and verifiable. There are many templates for a high school transcript online or you can make your own. (See High School Record Keeping) On that transcript you record subjects taken, grades achieved, days in attendance (optional) and units assigned to each subject studied.

    A unit is simply the educational measurement which represents the time spent in one specific course of study, usually 36 weeks, 5 days a week, 45-50 minutes a day. It would be wise to check early with various colleges so that you might consider their entrance requirements. When you give a grade for a subject completed, also include your grading scale. For example, if Jon made an “A” in algebra, it was because my grading scale was A=95-100; B=90-95; C= 80-90; D=70-80; F=less than 70.

    On your transcript it would be helpful to list the author and publisher of the textbooks you used. Also include a list of the books your child has read. Record all field trips of educational value, any community service or volunteer work, extra-curricular activities, awards, certificates, honors, positions held during their four years (example, “president of youth group of 40 at our church”). All of these items help give a fuller picture of your child and your child’s heart and abilities. While an extensive portfolio of this kind may not be necessary for graduation, it is a more accurate picture of your child and will be beneficial if he enters college. Although we all dread those yearly achievement tests, they are a wonderful “third-party evaluation” of your child and will help give a more accurate picture. A part-time job can be a tremendous asset to a young person. Not only can it provide a salary with which valuable lessons on money can be learned, but it also affords an opportunity to build character skills and an open door to witnessing. These employers then become references for the future.

    Consider a tutor

    If you lack the knowledge to teach certain subject, consider a tutor. Check within your church, your circle of friends and family, and your support group. Accountability to someone other than a parent is a good testing ground for a child. There are many online programs available.  Some offer online oversight while others are independently completed.  The number of  online classes from which your child can learn are numerous. Older students can often take classes at their local community college. Research and find a way that fits your needs and your pocketbook.

    Realize you will be stretched

    You need to realize that you will be stretched as you help your high schooler grow and learn. Your role changes from teacher and fount of knowledge, to mentor and friend on the same path. The world, and sometimes unfortunately, the church, has redefined the term “teen.” The Bible spoke of “teens” as “youths” and their job was to mimic the adults around them and learn to be like them. The youth years were years spent learning to be mature and capable of carrying on family responsibilities at the time deemed ready by the parents.

    I’m not suggesting you deprive your child of his friendships and activities, but I do suggest you weigh them carefully in the light of God’s Word.  Do these friends build up?  Do they have similar goals, lifestyles, command of the scriptures?  That doesn’t mean your child cannot be a powerful testimony to unsaved or baby believers.  But if your child is around others who pull him down, it is possible that he will settle for less than God’s best instead of pulling them up to his level. Are any of the youth activities opportunities to minister, or are they all purely for entertainment purposes?  Can the entire family come, or is this a “teen-only” activity?  Remember what happens to a companion of fools – he suffers harm.  God has given you a wonderful gift when He gave you this child.  You will one day stand before the Lord and account for your training of this gift. Instead of letting this thought frighten you, let it encourage you to use these few years you have left in your child’s life in a way that will equip him to be a mighty warrior in God’s army. Imagine the joy of hearing your own children rise up and call you blessed and to hear your Heavenly Father say, “Well Done.”

  • Mom, Do You Know Their Unique Style?

    Mom, Do You Know Their Unique Style?

    “The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increases learning.”  Proverbs 16:21

    As we get into the routine of schoolwork with our children, whether for the first time or after a summer break, we may want to keep in mind that children do not learn instantly. Many times in our homeschooling efforts a child just doesn’t “get it” the first few times, so we patiently try again. And again. And again. Sometimes we begin to think we must be a bad teacher, or the wrong teacher, or that our child must not be paying attention; after all, we’ve explained it ten times using various tones of voice. We may even conclude that one of us is intellectually challenged. However, we needn’t despair; the problem may be a conflict of learning styles.

    We all have preferred methods of receiving, even perceiving, new information.
Some of us, the watchers, are visual learners; we like to see the words, photos, illustrations, colors, diagrams, and graphs on a page before the information will cement itself in our minds. We may not even hear directions if we’re busy watching!

    Some of us, the talkers, are auditory learners; we prefer to listen to a voice speaking or singing new information before it becomes ours. We may not even see others doing something because we’re so busy hearing!

    Still others of us, the doers, are kinesthetic learners; we would rather go through the motions. In other words, we actually have to do something new before we know it well enough to repeat it. We may be completely clueless to new ideas unless they have some action to them!

    To add depth to the learning style issue, most of us use not just one distinct learning style, but a combination, with one style being dominant at certain times or ages. For example, all babies and very young children learn by a hands-on approach—touching, mouthing, crawling, climbing, emptying tissue boxes, cabinets, and drawers; whereas toddlers and preschoolers learn easier and faster if we use a multi-sensory method that involves the student seeing, speaking, hearing and doing over and over again. (Think of all the little hand-rhymes preschoolers love.) By sometime near first grade, visual skills are gaining ground; and by 5th or 6th grade, auditory skills are getting stronger. As children grow older and gain experience and maturity, some begin to prefer another learning style, while others retain the kinesthetic approach.

    If we know our child’s learning preference, we can teach them more productively, but we can also teach them how to learn best. In other words, if they know their preferred mode of learning, then when they are older and have more difficult classes, they can turn that knowledge to their advantage by using those methods that increase their learning capacity. For instance, electronic devices make recording easy for those with auditory preference. Or if they are assigned a teacher with a style counter to their favorite learning mode, they have a better chance of compensating.

    So, how do we discover our children’s preferred style?

    Your child may be kinesthetic if he

    • remembers what was done rather that what was told, read, or talked about
    • seems to learn everything by experience, trial, and error
    • tries things out and always seems to be touching things, even if they’re off limits
    • needs lots of physical contact with parents, children, and teachers, and if he does
n’t get the positive hugs, pats & so on, will nudge, push & pinch
    • 
is so active that shoelaces become untied and shirttails pulled out seconds after being neatly dressed for the day

    Kinesthetic learners, the “doers”, certainly require the most creativity on our part. These students are the ones in perpetual motion while we’re teaching them. They have us convinced they haven’t heard one thing because they seem like they’re ignoring us in their quest for movement. Workbooks have little value to this child unless we allow them the liberty of movement; bouncing slightly while sitting on a giant ball, or tapping their pencil to the rhythm of their kicking feet. They will easily forget multiplication tables – except if they learn them while jumping rope or on a mini trampoline. If we want to read aloud to this child we must permit LEGO construction, battlefield play with military men, or zooming vehicles; and for the older ones, maybe scissor work, constructing a model, coloring a book of detailed illustrations, or maybe even riding a stationary bike. These kids enjoy performing every science experiment in the book – and then devise more of their own! For spelling, air writing may work, or writing on a very large sheet of paper, or on a black or white board. In math, pint & quart jars can be used to measure water and a tape-measure to measure walls. A string or clothesline can be hung with clipped-on numbers to demonstrate order. Card games and board games are very helpful. Globes and large wall map activities for geography; Play-doh for making letters, magnetic letters, puzzles, and sign language are all helpful for the kinesthetic child.

    Keep in mind though: extra encouragement and training in the areas of sitting quietly, perseverance and self-control may be needed for the kinesthetic child. And again, nearly every child under 5ish years old is highly kinesthetic. Many grow out of it, some don’t.

    Your child may be auditory if she

    • is able to follow directions after listening to you once, and rarely needs things repeated
    • likes listening to music, radio, singing, and read aloud books
    • remembers a telephone number, zip code, or name by repeating it a few times
    • can maintain her focus just by listening in a class lecture or presentation, without having to be actively involved
    • solves problems by talking

    Auditory learners require talking — lots of talking! They need to hear us talking, they need to hear themselves talking, and computer programs need to talk, too. Auditory kids enjoy read alouds. These students like educational songs, audio books, and movies with lots of dialog. They will memorize songs, rhymes, and movie lines effortlessly – use this to (their) advantage! These learners are easy to teach with a bit more time planned for discussion. If we want this student to complete a workbook or read a science text silently, be prepared for a puzzled expression or a look of confusion, as the information just won’t compute without a little whispering.  To help boost their visual skills, play card games, board games, ‘I Spy’, or describe objects from a ‘memory tray’.

    Keep in mind though: extra training to notice details and not interrupt may be needed for the auditory child. Again, nearly every child 5ish-7ish is highly auditory, especially girls. Some grow out of it; some don’t.

    Your child may be visual if he

    • uses picture clues to give meaning when reading a book
    • will do chores better when given a list of things to do on paper
    • remembers faces & forgets names
    • notices details such as a new picture or object in the room, like mom’s new haircut or another change before anyone else
    • learns fastest and understands best if you show him and then allow him to see how things are put together or how they work
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watches others when in a social group instead of jumping into action

    Visual learners enjoy books, videos, workbooks, computer programs – anything having information which can be seen. These students are usually the easiest to teach since little effort is required on our part for them to soak up new concepts presented visually. They can easily be distracted if we try to teach them primarily by auditory methods; therefore, if we want this student to listen to new information by lecture, sermon, or audio recording, we must limit unrelated noise and allow note taking or drawing to facilitate learning. These are usually the students who demand silence while listening/learning. Illustrated timelines, colored sticky notes, and highlighting are all good strategies to use for a visual kid. Large maps to be labeled or stickered are helpful. A ‘story board’ before writing assignments will benefit many. (Story board: fold paper into fourths; draw beginning picture, two middle pictures, and one ending picture to help student visualize.) For assignments or chores; a written list of instructions will probably ensure much quicker results than oral directions.

    Keep in mind though: the visual child may need extra encouragement and training in the areas of listening attentively, holding eye contact during conversation, and social skills. These are the kids who may need TV time severely restricted because they will constantly watch it, if allowed.

    Outside the Preferred Mode

    Don’t be hesitant to try something new; something that seems to go against a child’s preferred mode of learning as, again, their learning mode may change over time. A professor of psychiatry, Dr Larry Silver, (Georgetown U of Medicine) said:

    “Matur[ity] spurts occur once or twice a year. It’s as if a new computer chip enters in.
    And when that chip starts firing,there may be changes in the way a child learns.”

    We may think we can’t possibly add one more item to our “to do” list and that incorporating a multi-sensory approach into our teaching won’t make that much difference anyway. If so, consider Thomas Edison, who was declared by his schoolmaster to be “addled” (confused), and Albert Einstein, who was called mentally slow and then expelled from school.* Could it be that their teachers did not appeal to their learning style? It can be very easy to underestimate a student’s intelligence when the teaching mode does not fit the student.

    With multi-sensory teaching, and sweet words from our lips, we can make learning more enjoyable and effective.

    “The wise in heart shall be called prudent: and the sweetness of the lips increaseth learning.” Proverbs 16:21

    Note: This may be an overly simplistic explanation, since personality also plays an important part in our learning styles. The three main learning modes– kinesthetic, auditory and visual– can occur in any personality type which results in many interesting combinations. For a more detailed account of learning styles see “The Way They Learn” by Cynthia Ulrich Tobias.

    *Thomas Edison; World Book Encyclopedia: Albert Einstein; The Ultimate Geography and Timeline Guide by Maggie Hogan & Cindy Wiggers page 9.